For years before my husband first messaged me on OkCupid in 2016, I was where you are now. Great job, envy-able home, wonderful friends, deeply desiring to meet and marry someone amazing. And not there. Yet. 
For me, meeting people wasn’t the hard part. I knew how to do that since jr. high. Having serious relationships where we were in love wasn’t even the hard part. Finding the right guy where he treated me well and we stayed together, that was the hard part. I wanted marriage and children. I wanted it with a man who would be a good father, was head over heels in love with me, was one of my best friends and told me how much he loved & appreciated me. Spoilers: I found him. 
I also wanted to have a relationship where our children would grow up having an excellent marriage as their normal. Where when they saw unhealthy relationship patterns, it would feel foreign. A loving, kind, committed relationship where I knew he was 100% mine, he felt the same and we knew we could overcome any obstacle, because we’d both been there for each other during the hard & the good. Spoilers: found that too. 
To get there, I participated in at least 7 programs, read lots of books (see resources) and decades worth of therapy & coaching. Each one had value. I don’t want you to have to do all that. 
I would love to guide you from where you are now to where you don’t need my help anymore because you’ve found it too & have learned all the skills to keep it without me. I can’t promise to take you there. I can promise that if you start and keep working with me, I will take you as close as you’re willing to go.

I’m not the perfect mom. I don’t believe they exist except in our imaginations. But I know my 5 year old daughter is securely attached, my husband and I talk about parenting and are (mostly) on the same page, we have date nights and I have “me time” almost every day, even if it’s just 15 minutes on some days. Our daughter is (mostly) happy, has lots of friends, typically kind and we say I love you a lot. And after years of sleep issues, a lot of nights she’s asleep by 7:30pm.

What I am is a mom who does my research. Consults doctors. Reads books. Takes courses. Who is willing to listen, brainstorm, be a sounding board & give practical, easy to implement advice. I don’t judge. I do advocate for you to be kind to yourself. 

When we had breastfeeding challenges, I discussed with my doctor, hired lactation consultants and didn’t give up until she was able to nurse without either of us in pain or frustrated. If you decided to end your journey, no judgement at all, I know how hard it is. If you want to chat through with a fellow mom who’s been there, I’m here.

When we had sleeping issues, I read books, talked to doctors, looked into pros and cons of cosleeping, hired sleep consultants, went through a sleep school and came out the other side. I’m not a sleep consultant, but happy to hear your story & share advice. 

One of my favorite things to do is to listen to parents talk about what they are struggling with as parents, and help brainstorm solutions. And then checking in to see if the solutions worked as we thought they would. 

Some parenting issues I have experience with:

• Sleep issues 
• Breastfeeding journey
• Separation anxiety (day & night)
• Presents
• Toys
• Picky eating 
• Getting back some “me” time
• Getting back couples time
• Self care while being a good parent
• Feelings of overwhelm, not being enough, am I the only one going through this, etc. 
• And more